My dearest women, my fellow co-conspirators, I want to propose something radical this Sunday morning. I want to stretch the boundaries of our imagination and offer an alternative way of doing things. As you reach for your coffee, lean back among the pillows, or find a few moments respite from the children and the chores, allow me to put something to you.
Excellent Sunday Cervix Salma. I went to a friend's wedding last weekend, but she's also recently got a promotion. I made the point of giving her a card congratulating her on the promotion when we went for a pre wedding meal. Obviously the couple still had a card on the day too, but I couldn't let her not celebrate the promotion too. Xxx
I spent my whole life subscribing to ticking the boxes. Then when it all blew up in my face, I saw clearly that none of it made me happy. So now I try to live my life on my terms and not make decisions because of what society expects of me. And hopefully setting the same example for my two daughters.
The comment about stay at home girlfriends is gold. I am truly concerned about that being a goal, it is so scary to not have your own money. What happens when their partners won’t give them money? What if they want to leave their partner and can’t get a job because they have limited work history?
I have 5 more months of maternity leave before I go back to work and I hate not making my own money. Making your own money is freedom and once you have taken care of the communal expenses you can spend your own money however you want. Even though we ( because it is a expense split between myself and my husband, not just for me to pay) will be paying around $450 a week in childcare it will be worth it to be back at work and to have $100 a week left over (after all the communal expenses) to spend on what ever I want.
Fucking fantastic food for thought. The queen / king definition is blowing 🤯 my 🤯 mind...the notion that from the beginning of time we have been defined in relation to men will stick with me. You’ve inspired me! I want to keep brainstorming how to disrupt this paradigm, and I love this suggestion as a big part of that for our next generations.
This! I feel the same way. I have my social media accounts for my hobbies and work--then save the personal one for my personal social media accounts. Right now personally, I do have much to share. The more I think about it, do I want to share everything and every minute of said day of my life to strangers anyways?
“Woman, married, mother, dead cannot be the only trajectory for us. There has to be more.” This hits me. Hard. As a divorced mother of two adult daughters and no relationship prospects in sight, I often find myself inexplicably sad, asking myself what else is left, but work and death? It is during those times, I remind myself of the glorious trips I have taken on my own and with friends. Or that I finished school and got my first degree at the age of 44. It’s a battle to believe there is still life ahead, but I have always been good in fight. 😉 Thank you, Salma. 💜
Excellent Sunday Cervix Salma. I went to a friend's wedding last weekend, but she's also recently got a promotion. I made the point of giving her a card congratulating her on the promotion when we went for a pre wedding meal. Obviously the couple still had a card on the day too, but I couldn't let her not celebrate the promotion too. Xxx
That’s exactly the way to do it. ☺️
I spent my whole life subscribing to ticking the boxes. Then when it all blew up in my face, I saw clearly that none of it made me happy. So now I try to live my life on my terms and not make decisions because of what society expects of me. And hopefully setting the same example for my two daughters.
You’re a legend. Keep forging your own path and making the choices for you, not everyone else. It’s really the only way to live. 💕
The comment about stay at home girlfriends is gold. I am truly concerned about that being a goal, it is so scary to not have your own money. What happens when their partners won’t give them money? What if they want to leave their partner and can’t get a job because they have limited work history?
I have 5 more months of maternity leave before I go back to work and I hate not making my own money. Making your own money is freedom and once you have taken care of the communal expenses you can spend your own money however you want. Even though we ( because it is a expense split between myself and my husband, not just for me to pay) will be paying around $450 a week in childcare it will be worth it to be back at work and to have $100 a week left over (after all the communal expenses) to spend on what ever I want.
Totally agree. How did we fight so hard for financial independence over all these decades, to land right back here. It’s horrendous.
Couldn’t said it better myself.
Fucking fantastic food for thought. The queen / king definition is blowing 🤯 my 🤯 mind...the notion that from the beginning of time we have been defined in relation to men will stick with me. You’ve inspired me! I want to keep brainstorming how to disrupt this paradigm, and I love this suggestion as a big part of that for our next generations.
This is exactly what I’m talking about. 🤩🤩🤩
This! I feel the same way. I have my social media accounts for my hobbies and work--then save the personal one for my personal social media accounts. Right now personally, I do have much to share. The more I think about it, do I want to share everything and every minute of said day of my life to strangers anyways?
“Woman, married, mother, dead cannot be the only trajectory for us. There has to be more.” This hits me. Hard. As a divorced mother of two adult daughters and no relationship prospects in sight, I often find myself inexplicably sad, asking myself what else is left, but work and death? It is during those times, I remind myself of the glorious trips I have taken on my own and with friends. Or that I finished school and got my first degree at the age of 44. It’s a battle to believe there is still life ahead, but I have always been good in fight. 😉 Thank you, Salma. 💜
Ugh YES! Love this!! xx