Last year, I wrote that women should stop posting proposal videos online. I largely meant all romantic, relationship videos/pictures, and as you can see from the comments section here, people got quite upset. But as you and I know, social media is no place to have a slow, nuanced conversation, so I wanted to explain my thinking a little more.
Before I do that, let me stress for the sake of clarity and care, I have many friends who I dearly love and admire, who regularly post their husbands/boyfriends all over social media. I don’t think any less of them and I love them just as much.
Personally, however, I will never post my romantic life online. If I’m in love, you won’t know about it. If I’ve just gotten married, you’ll never know. If I’m in a long-term relationship, you won’t find a trace of it online. If I’m heartbroken, you will most likely know all about it because I am a writer and a poet and heartbreak is what we thrive on, but the good, happy, contented, loving, engaged, married, relationship stuff, that is nowhere to be found, and here’s why: